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Self-Compassion Break

Practice mindfulness, common humanity and self-kindness

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💛 Self-Compassion Break

Based on Dr. Kristin Neff's research — self-compassion is more effective than self-esteem for wellbeing. Use this when you're being hard on yourself.

Step 1 — Mindfulness

Acknowledge the pain without judgement. Say to yourself:

"This is a moment of suffering."
What are you suffering over right now?
Step 2 — Common Humanity

Suffering is part of life. You are not alone. Say to yourself:

"Suffering is part of the human experience. I am not alone in this."
Name one other person who might feel similarly right now
Step 3 — Self-Kindness

Offer yourself the same kindness you would give a dear friend. Write a kind message to yourself: